Act Like An Adult & Build Self Esteem
When you behave and act like an adult, it is good for creating healthy self-esteem. This doesn't mean you have to read The Times every morning or button up your suit, rather it is a way you treat yourself and others that reduces anxiety and negative self-talk. I know many adults who act immature and children whose behaviours are better than grey haired grown-ups. Whether you're 14 or 42, you have likely been taught some basics about acting maturely. The more childish you are in handling life's ups and downs, the worse you will feel in the long run.
We call it mature when you pay the bills early, on time, or set up an automatic payment to avoid getting a late fee, or worse yet hurting your credit score. When you think about how these mature actions effect your internal state, they breed more trust and control within yourself. Conversely, acting childish can lead to more problems and stress, and is continual cycle down the self-esteem "rabbit-hole".
What does "acting like an adult" really mean?
Set it up now. Automatic payments, doctor appointments, appointment reminders, and even birthdays, can all be done online or with your smart phone. Take two minutes today and save thousands of worry and anxiety filled thoughts (which notoriously deplete yourself-esteem) later. That dentist appointment you have been putting off or even the bill that is over-due, no longer a drain on your time. Take care of your physical health now. If something is ailing you, make the appointment.
Stop splurging. Your body and bank account can't bounce back like they once could. Late night pizza sessions or trying to "keep up with the jones" and buying things beyond your budget lead to long term physical and mental health issues. Save your pennies for a rainy day or eat a few slices not the whole pie. It leads to less guilt and more control.
Clean it up. Nothing makes you feel like your adolescent self than a sink full of dirty dishes and an unkempt home life. No one is perfect. I certainly have piles of books and papers around my apartment in a somewhat "organized-for-me" fashion. However, dirty or messy living spaces can make you feel like you are living in a collage dorm room. Literally, it can push you into a scattered frame of mind. How great does it feel when you know where something is and don't spend hours looking for your keys or shirt you want to wear? Its a feeling of relieve and confidence.
Avoid negative energy. Those people who complain, criticise or constantly belittle you, that's like being stuck in an adolescent state of mind. Instead, adults chose the people they want around. Terrible colleagues or fighting family members may not be easy to avoid, but the logical side of your mind knows to stay away when you can and keep your interactions with them brief. You don't want that polluting your mature mind-set.
Avoid avoiding. You may feel like you're in control, temporarily, but the more things build up, (whether it be the monthly bills, writing that frustrating email, or taking the next step in whatever you need to do), the more you put it off, the more it effects your self-esteem. Do it once and get it done.
Use manners. Be polite. Don't get into aggressive arguments, or engage in embarrassing behaviours. Send the thank you card, call your grandma back, chew with your mouth shut, and try to take responsibility for your actions. If you messed up or made a mistake, admit to it now before it creates even more anxiety. It's okay to admit you're wrong. You don't always have to be right. Most humans aren't. Also, say sorry if you're wrong. You will feel better.
Its always a good idea to activate your inner-child in creativity, don't hide him or her. However, in making decisions that effect your self esteem and self-confidence, its best to act more like an "adult" than a toddler.
P/S : I hope, that this post can help those who feel like they have low self- esteem and low self-confidence. The bottom line is, you need to learn how to love yourself before you love others. Treat anyone the way you want to be treated. But most importantly, BE YOURSELF. No one is perfect, at times, you just can't expect everything to go smoothly the way you want it, there must ups and downs. Don't run away from the problem because everything happen for a reason, good things comes to those whom have patience.
We call it mature when you pay the bills early, on time, or set up an automatic payment to avoid getting a late fee, or worse yet hurting your credit score. When you think about how these mature actions effect your internal state, they breed more trust and control within yourself. Conversely, acting childish can lead to more problems and stress, and is continual cycle down the self-esteem "rabbit-hole".
What does "acting like an adult" really mean?
Set it up now. Automatic payments, doctor appointments, appointment reminders, and even birthdays, can all be done online or with your smart phone. Take two minutes today and save thousands of worry and anxiety filled thoughts (which notoriously deplete yourself-esteem) later. That dentist appointment you have been putting off or even the bill that is over-due, no longer a drain on your time. Take care of your physical health now. If something is ailing you, make the appointment.
Stop splurging. Your body and bank account can't bounce back like they once could. Late night pizza sessions or trying to "keep up with the jones" and buying things beyond your budget lead to long term physical and mental health issues. Save your pennies for a rainy day or eat a few slices not the whole pie. It leads to less guilt and more control.
Clean it up. Nothing makes you feel like your adolescent self than a sink full of dirty dishes and an unkempt home life. No one is perfect. I certainly have piles of books and papers around my apartment in a somewhat "organized-for-me" fashion. However, dirty or messy living spaces can make you feel like you are living in a collage dorm room. Literally, it can push you into a scattered frame of mind. How great does it feel when you know where something is and don't spend hours looking for your keys or shirt you want to wear? Its a feeling of relieve and confidence.
Avoid negative energy. Those people who complain, criticise or constantly belittle you, that's like being stuck in an adolescent state of mind. Instead, adults chose the people they want around. Terrible colleagues or fighting family members may not be easy to avoid, but the logical side of your mind knows to stay away when you can and keep your interactions with them brief. You don't want that polluting your mature mind-set.
Avoid avoiding. You may feel like you're in control, temporarily, but the more things build up, (whether it be the monthly bills, writing that frustrating email, or taking the next step in whatever you need to do), the more you put it off, the more it effects your self-esteem. Do it once and get it done.
Use manners. Be polite. Don't get into aggressive arguments, or engage in embarrassing behaviours. Send the thank you card, call your grandma back, chew with your mouth shut, and try to take responsibility for your actions. If you messed up or made a mistake, admit to it now before it creates even more anxiety. It's okay to admit you're wrong. You don't always have to be right. Most humans aren't. Also, say sorry if you're wrong. You will feel better.
Its always a good idea to activate your inner-child in creativity, don't hide him or her. However, in making decisions that effect your self esteem and self-confidence, its best to act more like an "adult" than a toddler.
P/S : I hope, that this post can help those who feel like they have low self- esteem and low self-confidence. The bottom line is, you need to learn how to love yourself before you love others. Treat anyone the way you want to be treated. But most importantly, BE YOURSELF. No one is perfect, at times, you just can't expect everything to go smoothly the way you want it, there must ups and downs. Don't run away from the problem because everything happen for a reason, good things comes to those whom have patience.
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