Story By MsBelleSugar

I'm turning 30 in another 4 years and I've been looking back at the last 5 years of dating with a certain amount of fondness, nostalgia, and happiness that dating in my 20's is almost over. Sure, it was awesome, and I met some amazing people, but there are some things I wish I knew about dating then that I know now. Here's what I learned about dating in my 20's. Here's what dating between 20 and 24 years old look like:  1. Hardly anyone is looking for anything serious Sure, you might meet a special unicorn out there who wants nothing more in life than to settle down, get married, and have kids all before their 25th birthday but chances are you probably won't. Between 20 and 24, most people are looking for hookups or casual dating.  2. No one talks on the phone  I don't think I spoke to anyone on the phone in my 20's besides my mother. If you're calling to set up dates you'll probably freak people out. The old - fashioned calling to set ...

The thought of a needle digging into your skin seems pretty darn painful, right? But what if I told you there's actually some tattoo locations with very minimal pain? That's right! There's not only 1 or 2, but 10 different places where you can get a tattoo without even as much as a single tear. Think of it like this: it doesn't really feel like a needle being drug through your skin, it really just feels like someone poking you with a pinprick in an annoying fashion. That being said, here's 10 least painful tattoo locations that won't make you shriek in pain, just being a little annoyed for a lengthy amount of time!  1. Outer Shoulder You have undoubtedly seen outer shoulder tattoos, whether they were small, stand alone tattoos or something much grander (better known as a half sleeve). There's three reasons for this. One, these tattoos are visible 99% of the time. Secondly, there's plenty of flesh space to draw a masterpiece. Thirdly, it's the leas...

There's no way to love without exposing yourself to pain. That's a good thing. When it comes to failures of love, it's easy to assume that it's "the weak" who get scorched, because "the strong" know how to protect themselves. But I suspect that frequently the reverse is the case, that it's often the strong who get positively pummelled by love -- because they are the ones willing to take the risk of getting hurt in the first place. Love is not made for the faint - hearted, or those who hesitate on the side-lines. You must be tremendously brave, tremendously audacious, to throw yourself into the eye of the hurricane. You must have incredible faith in your ability to mend a broken heart to risk falling into the arms of a lover whose motivations you might never fully understand. In a deep sense, passion is meant for the resilient -- for those who know that they'll find their way back onto solid ground no matter how badly they fall. It...

Each of us has 24 hours every day. We will spend those hours and days generally happy or somewhat miserable. There will be a mix, of course, but too many people exist in life instead of truly living. Too many people choose to accept their circumstances instead of chasing all the dreams and desires of their heart. The idea of living your dream life or a "happy life" will seem ridiculous to some. I was one of those people for 5 years. I lived my life pay-check to pay-check and in constant survival mode. I didn't think about hopes, dreams, or a happy life. It took some incredibly difficult circumstances to wake me up. It doesn't have to take a tragedy or an extreme circumstance for you to admit what you want for your life. Each of us has different goals and dreams that will make us happy, but what we all desire is freedom. We long to live life on our terms and spend our time on the things that are important to us. Here are 5 signs you're not living a life that ma...

When you behave and act like an adult, it is good for creating healthy self-esteem. This doesn't mean you have to read The Times every morning or button up your suit, rather it is a way you treat yourself and others that reduces anxiety and negative self-talk. I know many adults who act immature and children whose behaviours are better than grey haired grown-ups. Whether you're 14 or 42, you have likely been taught some basics  about acting maturely. The more childish you are in handling life's ups and downs, the worse you will feel in the long run. We call it mature when you pay the bills early, on time, or set up an automatic payment to avoid getting a late fee, or worse yet hurting your credit score. When you think about how these mature actions effect your internal state, they breed more trust and control within yourself. Conversely, acting childish can lead to more problems and stress, and is continual cycle down the self-esteem "rabbit-hole". What does ...

There is a definitive moment in a person's life where they become acutely aware of the fact that they found their soul mate. I'm not talking about the person they'll spend the rest of their days waking up to each morning. I'm talking about the awkward you didn't like that force themselves on you in Biology 101 freshman year of college that changed your life forever. So to that beauty-beyond-madness person, my best friend: I'd remembered, 3 years ago, I was taking this bus to Damansara, bus driver was super rude to an old Uncle whom doesn't have small change for the bus fare. Just when I decided to pay for this uncle, someone paid before I do. I turned around and saw this beautiful face that got me stunted. I smile at her, and we share the same seat. From there on, there goes our journey in becoming soul sister. We both think alike, sharing few common interests, and wild child. We had our craziest night out, our tradition which is Halloween, Ne...

My mother died one year ago on the 17th November 2015. I somehow survived one full lap around the sun without my guiding light. Grief is an emotional vampire that, at times, sucked me dry of my reserve. I felt trapped in an endless, starless night...unable to see the dawn.  So, I faked it.  I smiled through the crippling pain. I laughed through the unrelenting heartache. I rejoiced through the hot tears that burned my cheeks. I didn't curl up in the fetal position to mourn my mommy because she never gave me that example during her 4 year duel with breast cancer. She wanted more for me, and I wanted more for her. Don't get me wrong -- I host pity parties for one -- but I don't overstay my welcome. Even though my mother's no longer here, she showed me the way. And I still ache for her guidance every day.  Here's 11 things I miss about my beloved mother, Agatha Ng.  1. I miss the way she answer the phone. She was the only I person I knew who would alwa...

Thank you for being there for me when I call you and need someone to just listen. It doesn't matter where we are in this world or in our lives, I know you will always pick up. Picture was taken at : Ritz Carlton Hotel  Our first Eid celebration together. Thank you for always being my supporter and for not judging me, for most of the poor decision-making skills. Thank you for all the inside jokes we have created. Picture was taken at: Cyberjaya Mosque    Thank you for being brutally honest with me when I am being ridiculous. Thank you for respecting my values or opinions, even if you disagree. Thank you for always pouring me large glasses of wine hahaha. Picture was taken at : Ritz Carlton Hotel Thank you for being brave enough to let me in and be vulnerable to me. Thank you for celebrating all of the excite moments of my life with me. I can't imagine not having you in my wedding or by my side when I hold a little human in my arms that I magically create...

Every relationship is different, but most couples have fights once in a while *just like me and it happens all the time*. Partners that stay together for the long haul usually figure out a way to make up and move on. If you don't want to pretend the fight never happened and just wait for the tension to blow over, then learn how make up in an open and healthy way.  1. LOOK BENEATH THE ARGUMENT  There's a saying: "You're never fighting for the reason you think." It may look like you're fighting about money, sex, or something else, but there's usually some feeling underneath that hasn't been fully expressed, maybe even something you hadn't realized you were feeling. Identifying the root feeling can help you calm down and make up with your partner. Common feelings that many fights can be traced include:  Inadequacy. You feel like you're not good enough and you can't quite believe that your partner would want someone like you - at least, no...

You're single even though you're a catch You'd make a good girlfriend and you know it. Your friends are always telling you that you're the best thing coming down the street, and yet these same friends always wonder why the hell you're still single - a question you've asked yourself plenty of times. While I don't have to tell you that being single is awesome - because it is - there's still always that tiny voice in the back of every woman's mind that whispers, "I'm awesome. Why can't men see that?" Well, here's the deal: It's hard to be a catch and land a man. Here's why. 1. YOU DON'T BELIEVE IN SETTLING. You know what type of people settle? The one who think they're running out of time to find something real and those who think true love isn't in the cards for them. However, that's not the case for you. You know he's out there and you're not settling for anything less.  2. YOU'RE WA...

How do you love a broken-hearted girl: Have a lot of patience. For she is lost, lost in track and in need of your guidance. She acts strong but she isn't. She is so fragile. Why? People in the past damaged her, hurt her, and it made her hard and cold. If she needs time for her self, let her. Do not think that she doesn't love you anymore. She needs time for her self too. Give love like there is no tomorrow, like every minute is the last minute. Efforts -- very important. Effort makes her feel that she is special and worthy of your time.  Forgiveness -- for she will surely make you cry. Make you scream, make you want to give up because of her attitude and mistakes; which she doesn't mean at all. Still forgive her. She doesn't know what she is doing.  Lastly, stay. Stay no matter how hard the situation is. No matter how messy things get. You will overcome it. Just stay. Don't be like those people who left her before. Stay, she needs you, she just acts like s...

There are many things I could say to you. Many of those words may not be very  nice and most of them probably wouldn't make a difference to you in any way. There are so many things I could say to you. But I'll say this: I forgive you. I forgive you for keeping me up so many late nights wondering where you were, what you were doing, who you were with because you wouldn't bother to tell me.  I forgive you for calling me names like crazy, psycho, annoying, all because I wanted you to love me, and only me.  I forgive you. I forgive you for the tear stained cheeks from the countless fights about the same things over and over again because it seemed that no matter how much it hurt me, you didn't care.  I forgive you "it won't happen again"s when it always did and the "give me another chance"s when you truly didn't deserve them.  I forgive you for humiliating me in front of friends, family, and everyone who knew the trut...

It's been a long while since I've updated a new post on my blog. Kinda miss writing.  7 months ago, I was living a care-free, stress-free live until someone came and knock on my door, which is my heart. His name is , let's put it as Anonymous. I thought I would never believed in love again but God always have different ways to show his miracle and that HE is watching over you.  He came, showed me love, including the tender, loving, care. I slowly began to believed in love again. I have never imagined that, those wishes that I used to wished for, a *cheesy* kind of relationship , which includes flowers and numerous dates, he never seems to disappoint me. It was such a beautiful and stress-free days. I was happy, from within, after a very long time.  Till one day .... He began to changed, never the same man I used to know. I felt like he hadn't been completely honest with me. I have always been to one to open up, be it, whether it is work related or perso...