My thoughts about Divorce
Every woman have their own dream wedding and dream proposal. But how many woman in this world thought of the sacrifice you have to give in, in order to make this come true? Let's just be fair and not put the blame on woman. Man are not doing the right thing either.
So much of news about divorce, about man or woman having an affair, and all the other news you can hear either from the social media or from the News. Let me ask you something, why do you choose to be in a relationship or get married with the woman or man sitting next to you ? Why ? Was it because you love them enough to want to spend the rest of your life with them ? Or was it because you are in need of a company to cast all your loneliness away ? Is he or she a rebound to help you get over your ex ? Or is he or she a matter of benefit ? Or was it love at first sight ? Was it because you are afraid of you are getting older and that you need to marry like ASAP? Were you rushing things up ? So many questions to ask but only a few can provide the correct answer.
Love is a beautiful thing , is shared among 2 beautiful soul. Before you open your heart to love someone , you have to learn how to love yourself . Woman have got to learn how to value yourself , save your pride and honor and always think twice before making any decisions. Do not hold on to the past, take the past as a lesson and grow from it. When you choose to be in a relationship with someone , you have to know in mind what have to do in order to keep the relationship going. If you found that your relationship is not going well, you have got to sit down with your partner and voice out your thoughts and opinion. The most important thing in a relationship is trust. You need to build your trust with your partner. At the same time, you have to know what is the right thing to do and what is not the right thing to do. You need to learn about your partner, meaning , learn about his hobbies and learn about his mood swings. As for man, we all know that man have a higher ego than woman. Well, when it comes to dealing with woman, a little or less , you have to give and take. If your ego is high and so does your partner, the problem you both are facing will not be fixed and both will end up in screaming and yelling. You will said thing that will makes you regret saying it or worst it may cost you to lay hand on them.
Woman need to learn how to not tempt the man's anger. When you know your man is having a bad day and his facial expressions shows that he is angry and do not want to be disturb. Do not disturb him. Let him relax and cool down for a while , least you could do is cook some wonderful meal for him, prepare the shower for him. After that, you can move forward into asking him what makes him having a bad mood lately. Man can do the same thing either. If you are with a lioness woman, whom is always growling and angry. Slow her down with treating her some romantic dinner and then massage her if she likes that, ask her what makes her be acting like this all the time. If your partner are having issue that you find no solution in helping them, seek for professional help. Get a therapist. Divorce or break is not a solution to fix the problem between the both of you. Before you divorce or break up, try think about why the both of you make a decision to be together in the first place. Before you divorce, think about the kid that will have to grow up without the love of the father or the love of the mother. Think about the suffering the kid have to go through knowing that their parents are separated and they have to call the step-mom or step-dad "mommy" or "daddy" instead of you who is the biological mother and father. Does that makes you happy? All the things that you are doing, the kid are watching and they will do the same thing when they grow up because they learn it from you thinking it is the right thing to do.
I am just like any other woman in this world. Dream of a beautiful wedding and a surprise proposal. I am 24 years of age now. Traditionally, in my age, most of the woman are either having a child or married or even engaged. Sometimes whenever I went to my friend's wedding or engagement party, I found myself asking "when will that be me?" , that moment when you walked down the aisle, that goosebumps you have when you have the first dance. These are my dreams to have a big white wedding. I know that I will have it one day with the right man that GOD have appointed for me. I know that one day all my dreams will come true. I will live happily ever after. I guess I am the only one that is still believing in fairy tale . I do not have too much of opinion, I hope all the above does help because I really wished that everyone have their own fairy tale to believe in and at the same time can live happily ever after because divorce or break up is really a painful thing a person have got to go through.
So much of news about divorce, about man or woman having an affair, and all the other news you can hear either from the social media or from the News. Let me ask you something, why do you choose to be in a relationship or get married with the woman or man sitting next to you ? Why ? Was it because you love them enough to want to spend the rest of your life with them ? Or was it because you are in need of a company to cast all your loneliness away ? Is he or she a rebound to help you get over your ex ? Or is he or she a matter of benefit ? Or was it love at first sight ? Was it because you are afraid of you are getting older and that you need to marry like ASAP? Were you rushing things up ? So many questions to ask but only a few can provide the correct answer.
Love is a beautiful thing , is shared among 2 beautiful soul. Before you open your heart to love someone , you have to learn how to love yourself . Woman have got to learn how to value yourself , save your pride and honor and always think twice before making any decisions. Do not hold on to the past, take the past as a lesson and grow from it. When you choose to be in a relationship with someone , you have to know in mind what have to do in order to keep the relationship going. If you found that your relationship is not going well, you have got to sit down with your partner and voice out your thoughts and opinion. The most important thing in a relationship is trust. You need to build your trust with your partner. At the same time, you have to know what is the right thing to do and what is not the right thing to do. You need to learn about your partner, meaning , learn about his hobbies and learn about his mood swings. As for man, we all know that man have a higher ego than woman. Well, when it comes to dealing with woman, a little or less , you have to give and take. If your ego is high and so does your partner, the problem you both are facing will not be fixed and both will end up in screaming and yelling. You will said thing that will makes you regret saying it or worst it may cost you to lay hand on them.
Woman need to learn how to not tempt the man's anger. When you know your man is having a bad day and his facial expressions shows that he is angry and do not want to be disturb. Do not disturb him. Let him relax and cool down for a while , least you could do is cook some wonderful meal for him, prepare the shower for him. After that, you can move forward into asking him what makes him having a bad mood lately. Man can do the same thing either. If you are with a lioness woman, whom is always growling and angry. Slow her down with treating her some romantic dinner and then massage her if she likes that, ask her what makes her be acting like this all the time. If your partner are having issue that you find no solution in helping them, seek for professional help. Get a therapist. Divorce or break is not a solution to fix the problem between the both of you. Before you divorce or break up, try think about why the both of you make a decision to be together in the first place. Before you divorce, think about the kid that will have to grow up without the love of the father or the love of the mother. Think about the suffering the kid have to go through knowing that their parents are separated and they have to call the step-mom or step-dad "mommy" or "daddy" instead of you who is the biological mother and father. Does that makes you happy? All the things that you are doing, the kid are watching and they will do the same thing when they grow up because they learn it from you thinking it is the right thing to do.
I am just like any other woman in this world. Dream of a beautiful wedding and a surprise proposal. I am 24 years of age now. Traditionally, in my age, most of the woman are either having a child or married or even engaged. Sometimes whenever I went to my friend's wedding or engagement party, I found myself asking "when will that be me?" , that moment when you walked down the aisle, that goosebumps you have when you have the first dance. These are my dreams to have a big white wedding. I know that I will have it one day with the right man that GOD have appointed for me. I know that one day all my dreams will come true. I will live happily ever after. I guess I am the only one that is still believing in fairy tale . I do not have too much of opinion, I hope all the above does help because I really wished that everyone have their own fairy tale to believe in and at the same time can live happily ever after because divorce or break up is really a painful thing a person have got to go through.
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