Story By MsBelleSugar

I'm turning 30 in another 4 years and I've been looking back at the last 5 years of dating with a certain amount of fondness, nostalgia, and happiness that dating in my 20's is almost over. Sure, it was awesome, and I met some amazing people, but there are some things I wish I knew about dating then that I know now. Here's what I learned about dating in my 20's. Here's what dating between 20 and 24 years old look like:  1. Hardly anyone is looking for anything serious Sure, you might meet a special unicorn out there who wants nothing more in life than to settle down, get married, and have kids all before their 25th birthday but chances are you probably won't. Between 20 and 24, most people are looking for hookups or casual dating.  2. No one talks on the phone  I don't think I spoke to anyone on the phone in my 20's besides my mother. If you're calling to set up dates you'll probably freak people out. The old - fashioned calling to set ...

The thought of a needle digging into your skin seems pretty darn painful, right? But what if I told you there's actually some tattoo locations with very minimal pain? That's right! There's not only 1 or 2, but 10 different places where you can get a tattoo without even as much as a single tear. Think of it like this: it doesn't really feel like a needle being drug through your skin, it really just feels like someone poking you with a pinprick in an annoying fashion. That being said, here's 10 least painful tattoo locations that won't make you shriek in pain, just being a little annoyed for a lengthy amount of time!  1. Outer Shoulder You have undoubtedly seen outer shoulder tattoos, whether they were small, stand alone tattoos or something much grander (better known as a half sleeve). There's three reasons for this. One, these tattoos are visible 99% of the time. Secondly, there's plenty of flesh space to draw a masterpiece. Thirdly, it's the leas...

There's no way to love without exposing yourself to pain. That's a good thing. When it comes to failures of love, it's easy to assume that it's "the weak" who get scorched, because "the strong" know how to protect themselves. But I suspect that frequently the reverse is the case, that it's often the strong who get positively pummelled by love -- because they are the ones willing to take the risk of getting hurt in the first place. Love is not made for the faint - hearted, or those who hesitate on the side-lines. You must be tremendously brave, tremendously audacious, to throw yourself into the eye of the hurricane. You must have incredible faith in your ability to mend a broken heart to risk falling into the arms of a lover whose motivations you might never fully understand. In a deep sense, passion is meant for the resilient -- for those who know that they'll find their way back onto solid ground no matter how badly they fall. It...

Each of us has 24 hours every day. We will spend those hours and days generally happy or somewhat miserable. There will be a mix, of course, but too many people exist in life instead of truly living. Too many people choose to accept their circumstances instead of chasing all the dreams and desires of their heart. The idea of living your dream life or a "happy life" will seem ridiculous to some. I was one of those people for 5 years. I lived my life pay-check to pay-check and in constant survival mode. I didn't think about hopes, dreams, or a happy life. It took some incredibly difficult circumstances to wake me up. It doesn't have to take a tragedy or an extreme circumstance for you to admit what you want for your life. Each of us has different goals and dreams that will make us happy, but what we all desire is freedom. We long to live life on our terms and spend our time on the things that are important to us. Here are 5 signs you're not living a life that ma...

When you behave and act like an adult, it is good for creating healthy self-esteem. This doesn't mean you have to read The Times every morning or button up your suit, rather it is a way you treat yourself and others that reduces anxiety and negative self-talk. I know many adults who act immature and children whose behaviours are better than grey haired grown-ups. Whether you're 14 or 42, you have likely been taught some basics  about acting maturely. The more childish you are in handling life's ups and downs, the worse you will feel in the long run. We call it mature when you pay the bills early, on time, or set up an automatic payment to avoid getting a late fee, or worse yet hurting your credit score. When you think about how these mature actions effect your internal state, they breed more trust and control within yourself. Conversely, acting childish can lead to more problems and stress, and is continual cycle down the self-esteem "rabbit-hole". What does ...

There is a definitive moment in a person's life where they become acutely aware of the fact that they found their soul mate. I'm not talking about the person they'll spend the rest of their days waking up to each morning. I'm talking about the awkward you didn't like that force themselves on you in Biology 101 freshman year of college that changed your life forever. So to that beauty-beyond-madness person, my best friend: I'd remembered, 3 years ago, I was taking this bus to Damansara, bus driver was super rude to an old Uncle whom doesn't have small change for the bus fare. Just when I decided to pay for this uncle, someone paid before I do. I turned around and saw this beautiful face that got me stunted. I smile at her, and we share the same seat. From there on, there goes our journey in becoming soul sister. We both think alike, sharing few common interests, and wild child. We had our craziest night out, our tradition which is Halloween, Ne...